“Instead of trying to fictionalize gender, let’s talk about the moments in life when gender feels all too real. Because gender doesn’t feel like drag when you’re a young trans child begging your parents not to cut your hair or not to force you to wear that dress. And gender doesn’t feel like a performance when, for the first time in your life, you feel safe and empowered enough to express yourself in ways that resonate with you, rather than remaining closeted for the benefit of others. And gender doesn’t feel like a construct when you finally find that special person whose body, personality, identity, and energy feels like a perfect fit with yours. Let’s stop trying to deconstruct gender into nonexistence, and instead start celebrating it as inexplicable, varied, profound, and intricate.” —
trying not to throw up from all the swirly thoughts in my head.
atl in august.
no matter what my momma says.
“Do not chase people. Be you and do your own thing and work hard. The right people who belong in your life will come to you, and stay.” —Wu Tang (via athimblefulofbeauty)
“I have no control over what people think of me but I have 100% control of what I think of myself, and that is so important. And not just about your body, but so many ways of confidence. You’re constantly learning how to be confident, aren’t you? You’re constantly reprogramming yourself.” —Beth Ditto (via hollow-gram)
“I was looking for myself and asking everyone except myself questions which I, and only I, could answer.” —Ralph Ellison, Invisible Man (via llibre)